I ask myself what type of person they are, to begin with.
Withholding things from them to spare their feelings can be a kindness, but there's also a certain arrogance to it. I'd imagine that's where your description of something being "like lying" is stemming from — you're aware that you're superseding their right to dictate their own feelings on the subject at hand.
So the question to begin with is, are they the sort of person who value that sort of control over their feelings over the state of experiencing positive ones? Or put another way, are they the sort of person who does believe that sometimes ignorance is bliss?
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Withholding things from them to spare their feelings can be a kindness, but there's also a certain arrogance to it. I'd imagine that's where your description of something being "like lying" is stemming from — you're aware that you're superseding their right to dictate their own feelings on the subject at hand.
So the question to begin with is, are they the sort of person who value that sort of control over their feelings over the state of experiencing positive ones? Or put another way, are they the sort of person who does believe that sometimes ignorance is bliss?